"Just divorce her"

We often start episodes off with a big sigh, but this one really is a doozy.

On this week’s episode of Reading the Comments 👀 we look at the comments section of a viral TikTok. In the video, a dating expert dares to suggest that when married women feel emotionally disconnected from their husbands, they lose interest in sex.

As you can imagine, the video attracted a lot of casual misogyny from men. Meanwhile, women popped into the comments to nod their heads in the yes direction and to share how they are being harmed by domestic inequality.

But as we dug deeper into the comments, we also found some pretty revealing conversations about marital sex and divorce— and discussed yet another reason why it’s so important to vote.

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@the_dating_decoderFirst, seggs is a code word you can hopefully figure out because I’m not about to get kicked off. Secondly, there ARE other reasons like feeling like their husband doesn’t help them with the workload, or affairs, etc. BUT this is THE biggest reason by far. Calm down and breathe, I know it may be hard to hear and you’ll get triggered. But I am here to help you start getting your needs met. Don’t shoot the messanger. I am direct and I make no apologies for my assertiveness. I’m a coach not a therapist. #love #relationships #intimacy #marriage #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

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Show notes and further reading:

“Don’t Be So Attached to Attachment Theory” | Danielle Carr, Gawker

“Women Are Happier without Children or a Spouse” | The Guardian

IFS brief on how marriage “confers enormous benefits for men’s wallets, their sex lives, and their physical and mental health.” (links to a download of the report)

“Conservative US lawmakers are pushing for an end to no-fault divorce” | The Guardian

“The Right Aims to Turn Back the Clock on American Divorce Law” | Alison Lefkovitz in Time Magazine

“Conservatives in red states turn their attention to ending no-fault divorce laws” | Ayesha Rascoe, NPR

“Louisiana Republican Party considers backing elimination of no-fault divorce” | Julie O'Donoghue (Louisiana Illuminator), WWNO - New Orleans Public Radio

“New Oklahoma senator files bill that would end no-fault divorces in the state” | Barbara Hoberock, Oklahoma Voice

Nebraska GOP Party Platform

Voting Resources

vote.gov

vote.org

Ballotpedia 2024 Voter Kit | Ballotpedia

Know Your Voting Rights | ACLU

2024 Abortion State Ballot Measures | The Center for Reproductive Rights

New York State Equal Rights Amendment | Planned Parenthood Action Fund

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For this week’s discussion: What do you think about the gender divide that came up in the comments of this video? What does it all say about the current discourse on marriage, divorce, and sex?